Social Literacy: Women read their social environment and you

Women learn to read socially from very early ages. They have had to read their environments and the people around them for safety reasons from the beginning of time. I'm assuming women who have learned to read social situations and may have survived longer and they have most likely passed that on to their daughters.

From an evolutionary stand-point it makes sense. I could be totally wrong but this blog belongs to me and I'm going with it. Most women who couldn't read social situations probably wound up injured or dead. If she wondered into the wrong cave with the wrong cave man, she may not come out of that cave. Her subconscious mind has developed to the evolutionary point of picking up on the slightest of queues to protect herself from creeps, losers, and dangerous men. Modern women have countless generations of hardwiring that help them navigate their social worlds. Some are better than others but most women possess this skill.

It's your job, as a man, to understand this. Well, actually you don't have to understand this and you can still have success but by understanding this you have an advantage because you can present yourself in a way that when she reads YOU she tells herself attractive, comfortable, and seductive stories. The story starts the moment you enter her peripheral vision. Notice that I did not say, the moment she looks at you. She doesn't even have to look directly at you to tell herself a story about you.

Example, I went to the movies with my roommate recently. We were a bit early so we went to the book store near by. We were going down the escalator while in the middle of some in depth conversation about god knows what. Before we got to the bottom of the escalator I knew exactly how many men where on that floor in our pathway to exit the store; 5. My subconscious mind made a mental note of roughly their age, who they were with, and how they were dressed. In other words, I told my self a story about each one of these men and only one of them presented any value to me.

Why? Because his clothes fit, he was tall, he was in good shape, and he was with a female. The others were overweight, ill dressed and presented no social proof. Regarding social proof, that isn't to say they weren't with other females but the females they may have been with didn't offer me any information that lead me to telling any story about him that was any more interesting then the one I had already told myself about him.

These stories took place in the speed of light, literally. The nano seconds it took for my secondary vision to perceive their images, I made several low-value conclusions about them. And that's not to say I am not open to having those stories retold with more data to read. In a flash, my subconscious mind entered those men into one or several knowledge structures I have in the back of my mind. Knowledge structures are categories we build in our subconscious minds to hold and analyze data. Most women have hight-value knowledge structures for men and low-value ones as well. Every man she has ever met goes into these knowledge structures; if you dress like the last 100 creepy guys who approached her, she's going to think you're a creep, and vice versa.

And all of this was done without directly looking at any of these men and while holding a conversation with my girlfriend. This is how we operate. Men do this too but just in different ways. You enter a nightlife environment and you know within seconds who's hot and who's not. Who you would like to take home and who you wish would go home. Women just do it in a way many men are clueless about.

We read between the lines, we see symbolism, and we fill in the blanks. If you want to be successful with women give them information that will allow them to tell themselves (and eventually their girlfriends) attractive, comfortable, and seductive stories about you. And that starts with how your dressed, how you present yourself socially, and who you are with. Plain and simple. But not that plain and not that simple, if you don't know what kind of stories women are currently telling themselves about you.

Present yourself in the way the presents the most value. If you're a professional with a cool job, play that up. Don't dress lower than your highest value. Don't give out data that conveys anything but the highest value you have. Don't dress like a trendy hollywood fake rocker when you can present yourself as a Hollywood legitimate professional with a keen sense of style. Be true to your identity without devaluing it.

If you're a lazy bum with nothing interesting about you, that doesn't mean you have to convey that with your clothes, attitude, and behaviors. Find something of value within yourself and polish the hell out of it and let it work for you. The deck is already stacked against you; you don't have to tip it over with cluelessness. Be a man and show her what you got, then let her work for it. Don't trip yourself up.