I Judge You When....YOU Devalue Your Own Social Status

As humans we make unconscious flash decisions continuously and constantly throughout our daily lives. If we didn't we may not live long. If a speeding vehicle charges towards you while you walk in a cross walk, you do NOT have enough time to analyze every single choice available to you and you have to make a decision before you become road kill.

In modern society we do not have to face life threatening issues on a daily basis. At least not in contemporary America, if we're lucky. But still our subconscious mind makes stealthy decisions in rapid succession as we go about our business and pleasure.

This ability allows men and women to progress through life ensuring their survival and spawning. Women, in particular, use these rapid cognitive conclusions to find a suitable mate who will protect and provide for her and her offspring. Until finding such a mate she will use this mental prowess to weed out unsatisfactory candidates.

beautiful women do not have the time to take into consideration every fact, opinion, or aspect of every single man she encounters. There simply aren't enough hours in the day. So these women subconsciously look for shortcuts to narrow the pool of available men worthy of her reproductive organs.

so a woman takes hasty assessment of the information YOU provide her. That's right you provide the information which is briskly transpose into a judgment by a beautiful woman.

I am such a woman and I judge you.

you can do one of two things:

1) accept that and present yourself favorably to me.

Or

2) deny that and suffer the consequences of presenting yourself as undesirable to me.

there are countless things that I, as a beautiful woman, judge you, as just another guy, on.

one of the more important being: your social status.

case in point this e-mail I received from a young man:

"Hi

I spotted you on [an online forum] and obviously clicked on you because of your beauty... What fantastic eyes! You have such a pixie-like quality. :)

But for me, beauty is nothing without brains... and you definitely have both. It's so nice (and rare!) to meet an educated and well-spoken woman."

lightning fast analysis:

as a first piece of communication, this e-mail conveys to me that this man does not have beautiful and smart women in his life.

Which leads me to believe other beautiful and smart women have chosen not to date him or be a part of his life.

I can only guess why. Possibly it's because his life is NOT exciting enough for beautiful and smart women. Possibly it's because he repels beautiful and smart women. Possibly he doesn't know what to do with beautiful and smart women. Possibilities are endless. And regardless of the real reason, I wouldn't be caught dead being the only beautiful and smart woman (of which I know plenty) to date this man.

what is rare in his life is plentiful in mine. Almost all of my girlfriends are beautiful and smart women. And they would judge me for dating a guy who wasn't up to our social status.


my judgment:

his social status lies below mine.


Don't get me wrong. What this guy wrote was very sweet and romantic but not when it comes from a complete stranger. This seems more appropriate during comfort building and relationship management stages, after a woman is attracted to the man.

Demonstrating lower social value is not a way to attract a woman into your life.

Men have complete control over how they present themselves to women.

How are you presenting your self?