Task 1
In all honesty there is no way I am going to be able to NOT shower for multiple days. I know this may seem like some lame-girl thing...but in all honesty for health reasons I need to shower at least every 2 days. I have a skin problem and it gets really bad during the winter and I need to wash my skin. PERIOD. Call me lame. I could go without make-up...maybe that is a female equivalent to the male's not showering. I love make-up so it will be a stretch for me...and it will be good to see how people respond to me with out make-up.
Task 2
Ummm...I didn't remove any hair...I usually save my armpits and remove excess hair from my upper lip, brow line, and chin...I guess I can forgo that for this experiment.
Task 3
I printed the mission list and started to fill it out...It felt corny or superficial. I wish there were some questions to help me get a little deeper.
Task 4
I listened to the tape last night. I actually let it play in the background has I was doing other stuff. Then right before bed I actually listened to it and did what it was saying. I let it keep playing all night while I was sleeping. I was hoping it would soak into my unconscious. I keep letting it play while I was getting ready in the morning...I'll listen to it again, just before bed and let it play all night.
Task 5
I watch the posture video. I thought it was a bit weird. But I laid on the floor with my head on a book for 15 minutes. I really paid attention to my posture all day. I noticed that I normally walk around with my chin down. Today I walked around with my chin parallel with the ground. It felt weird because I had to look down with my eyes. I don't know if this makes sense but I know I looked much more confident today. But my back hurt like hell. Maybe I am not doing it properly. I'll rewatch the video again.
Task 6
I realized that my small talk yesterday didn't actually count because I was asking for restaurant recommendations, etc. I made small talk with several people today.
1) An Asian girl in the bathroom (at the sink), she had brown eyes and we talked about make-up (I love make-up).
2) I talked to a blonde girl with blue eyes in my class. It's a big class and I've never talked to her before. We talked about the weather (I said the groundhog must have seen his shadow because it's hot in California). We also talked about the report that is due in class.
3) Short Latin girl walking with brown eyes. I asked if she was studying for midterms. She was.
4) Asian girl at copy machine (very dark brown eyes) I was talking about the air conditioner.
5) Old lady on the bus with hazel brown/green eyes. This was the highlight of my day. We talked until she had to get off the bus...we talked about a lot of stuff: school, writing, weather, her family, etc.
I talked to a bunch of other people but it wasnt "small" talk. Like I asked to pet a man's dog, I asked people questions, etc.
I got yelled at by a man in an elevator. He was outside the elevator and he kept pushing the button...which stopped the elevator from going anywhere. I told him "the elevator will go up if you stop pushing the button". He was highly offended by me and told me "You can hold the elevator" Then he asked me where my PhD was. I told him I was an undergrad. He was extremely hostile towards me. I tried to defuse it with being kind. I told him I didn't mean to be rude. He said I was. I said I didn't mean to. He said "You should say excuse me." I said "excuse me". He said "you're excused". I said "Thank you, have a nice day". It was really weird.
P.S.
I got a call from a friend who is a newbie, I call him Yakuza. He said he was sarging alone at Barnes&Noble and he was striking out. After I listened to him. I tried to give him some advice that I hope will help. I told him to use false-time restraints and to listen to the mindmapping auto to erase the bad experience from his mind. I hope that helped him.
Monday, February 5, 2007
Sunday, February 4, 2007
Mini-Field Report, a cool blog post, and StyleLife Challenge
Mini-Field Report: Dr. Yes does Melrose
Dr. Yes and I went out today to finish the shopping we started on Friday. It was a beautiful day and he got some cool new threads and we had some yummy food. We really didn't set any major goals today. Just some small talk, eye contact, and I was to keep a friendly face. I think we accomplished our goals. I made small talk with at least 5 strangers...it was way easy. I asked for resturant recommendations, talked about music, and asked the waitress is she thought the half-time game entertainment was "hot" or if it needed more pizazz. Dr. Yes thought it needed much more SIZZLE. The waitress and I didn't. That's when I used my new technique.
The Wing-Girl technique I invented is called "fraternal love". I got the idea from reading Joseph Sugarman's The Psychological Triggers chapter 3, "Love and the Campus Hooker". You'll actually have to read the chapter if you want to know what it's all about but basically the routine goes like this:
I put my arm around the guy I am winging or I put my hand on his shoulder.
I say "He's wonderful and I genuinely admire this guy" to the target.
It builds instant social proof and makes the guy I am winging look that much better. I tried it once but as I get used to it, I can see myself using this one a lot...especially with guys I genuinely admire and think are wonderful. Feel free to use this but make sure you credit me if you reuse it....hehehehe.
Stay tuned for more adventures with Dr. Yes and I (and other crazy characters).
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There's a PUA in the community that seems very SINNcere and genuinely interested in helping other men get good with women. He can be a little over the top sometimes (especially when he's drunk) but we'll just chalk that up to innergame issues (some people should not have access to electronic-communication devises when they are under the influence...and that includes me).
But I really like this blog post by Sinn. So check it out.
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Dr. Yes and I heard about the Stylelife Challenge. He's been wanting to do it to jump start his game. He's been trying to get the info and today I got my hands on most of the material. So hopefully I can find a way to share it with him. He's very excited and wants to blog his results and give it 110%. I am going to do it too. I see no harm in attempting self-improvement stuff.
Keep an eye on my blog for more updates.
Task 2:
A. I believe people perceive me as attractive but (somewhat) unapproachable (I think Dr. Yes, would disagree on the latter).
B. I want people to perceive me as approachable, friendly, very social, intelligent, and nonselfish.
C.1. Body Language. I allow my back & arm injuries to effect my posture and body language.
2. Bad eye contact. I often don't keep eye contact during conversations and I quickly avoid contact if a guy looks at me in public (like a scared animal).
3. Interrupting people while they are talking (It's really rude of me).
D. 1. I want to show people I am listening by repeating what I hear.
2. I want my body language to exude pain-free confidence.
3. I want to keep a pleasant look on my face. Somethings I get so deep in thought I forget my face is wrinkled up in emotion. I have a great smile and I want to use it more.
I am going to take care of the other tasks now....take care.
Dr. Yes and I went out today to finish the shopping we started on Friday. It was a beautiful day and he got some cool new threads and we had some yummy food. We really didn't set any major goals today. Just some small talk, eye contact, and I was to keep a friendly face. I think we accomplished our goals. I made small talk with at least 5 strangers...it was way easy. I asked for resturant recommendations, talked about music, and asked the waitress is she thought the half-time game entertainment was "hot" or if it needed more pizazz. Dr. Yes thought it needed much more SIZZLE. The waitress and I didn't. That's when I used my new technique.
The Wing-Girl technique I invented is called "fraternal love". I got the idea from reading Joseph Sugarman's The Psychological Triggers chapter 3, "Love and the Campus Hooker". You'll actually have to read the chapter if you want to know what it's all about but basically the routine goes like this:
I put my arm around the guy I am winging or I put my hand on his shoulder.
I say "He's wonderful and I genuinely admire this guy" to the target.
It builds instant social proof and makes the guy I am winging look that much better. I tried it once but as I get used to it, I can see myself using this one a lot...especially with guys I genuinely admire and think are wonderful. Feel free to use this but make sure you credit me if you reuse it....hehehehe.
Stay tuned for more adventures with Dr. Yes and I (and other crazy characters).
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There's a PUA in the community that seems very SINNcere and genuinely interested in helping other men get good with women. He can be a little over the top sometimes (especially when he's drunk) but we'll just chalk that up to innergame issues (some people should not have access to electronic-communication devises when they are under the influence...and that includes me).
But I really like this blog post by Sinn. So check it out.
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Dr. Yes and I heard about the Stylelife Challenge. He's been wanting to do it to jump start his game. He's been trying to get the info and today I got my hands on most of the material. So hopefully I can find a way to share it with him. He's very excited and wants to blog his results and give it 110%. I am going to do it too. I see no harm in attempting self-improvement stuff.
Keep an eye on my blog for more updates.
Task 2:
A. I believe people perceive me as attractive but (somewhat) unapproachable (I think Dr. Yes, would disagree on the latter).
B. I want people to perceive me as approachable, friendly, very social, intelligent, and nonselfish.
C.1. Body Language. I allow my back & arm injuries to effect my posture and body language.
2. Bad eye contact. I often don't keep eye contact during conversations and I quickly avoid contact if a guy looks at me in public (like a scared animal).
3. Interrupting people while they are talking (It's really rude of me).
D. 1. I want to show people I am listening by repeating what I hear.
2. I want my body language to exude pain-free confidence.
3. I want to keep a pleasant look on my face. Somethings I get so deep in thought I forget my face is wrinkled up in emotion. I have a great smile and I want to use it more.
I am going to take care of the other tasks now....take care.
Friday, February 2, 2007
Mini-Field Report, A Comment on a Blog, & Guilty Pleasure: Sleep
Mini-Field Report:
Film Buff asked me to go shopping with him today after school. Well, somehow I managed to not finish my paper last night which was due today. So I woke up sometime before 3 a.m. and finished my paper just in enough time to get to my first class on time (I'm such a good student, huh?) And I ended up turning in a mediocre paper. Oh well, I'll just 'visualize' myself doing better on the next paper (and midterm for that matter).
Speaking of midterms, we're in the middle of mid-terms now. That means there are a lot of papers and a lot of tests that are happening next week. I've fallen behind and need to read a shit load of middle English bullshit, so I don't flunk the one class that I am actually taking for my major this quarter. The other two classes I am taking, although they are both very rigorous and immensely enjoyable, neither counts towards my major. But that is neither here or there.
I met up with Film Buff (why I originally called him that...I will never know...I am not even sure he's a "film buff") From now on Film Buff is going to be known as Dr. Yes...because he's going to get YESes with a surgical precision. Ha...I came up with the name....He came up with the slogan....Except we didn't discuss this becoming his new name....but I am going to call him that at least in my blog...because it will be good for his confidence and he can have fun "visualizing" getting YESes with such precision.
Well for what ever reason, Dr. Yes didn't really feel like opening or "picking up" women today...no big surprise to me...it's becoming his M.O. You might be thinking, we should call him Dr. No, because it fits his current frame but that would do nothing for his transformation.
And he's already started the transformation. He may not realize it yet but he's embarking on a monumental transformation...1 year from now, neither of us will recognize him. I'd bet on it and I am not the betting type. He's already made several steps in the right direction. He works out every day, he eats (what he thinks is) healthy, and he took me shopping with him.
And I have to admit, Dr. Yes takes just as long to shop as some girls. But we had fun....or at least, I had fun. He ended up getting several stylish things that accent his blue eyes and brown hair...SIDE NOTE: Hey ladies, he's single and you could be on a date with him in the next 31 days. We're also planning to invite another friend to go shopping tomorrow on Melrose, we'll call this friend "Hands-off Harry" because he's insanely young, amazingly attractive, super fashionable, humorous as hell, and in a relationship. That combination equals hands-off in my book (regardless of my visualizations). We're also going to invite the Exchange guy. Exchange Guy is going to need a new name too but first we have to come up with a really good one for him too. I love Exchange Guy; he really reminds me of my little brother. They are both the same height and they both have the same body build (skinny). He's cool and I'll miss him when he goes back to his European university after spring quarter.
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A Blog Comment
I made a comment on Tenmagnet's blog, check it out. He liked the comment and made it a blog entry. Check it out.
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Guilty Pleasure: Sleep
If I had the energy I'd write a great post about sleep...but for now all I have to say is:
zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
Good Night.
Film Buff asked me to go shopping with him today after school. Well, somehow I managed to not finish my paper last night which was due today. So I woke up sometime before 3 a.m. and finished my paper just in enough time to get to my first class on time (I'm such a good student, huh?) And I ended up turning in a mediocre paper. Oh well, I'll just 'visualize' myself doing better on the next paper (and midterm for that matter).
Speaking of midterms, we're in the middle of mid-terms now. That means there are a lot of papers and a lot of tests that are happening next week. I've fallen behind and need to read a shit load of middle English bullshit, so I don't flunk the one class that I am actually taking for my major this quarter. The other two classes I am taking, although they are both very rigorous and immensely enjoyable, neither counts towards my major. But that is neither here or there.
I met up with Film Buff (why I originally called him that...I will never know...I am not even sure he's a "film buff") From now on Film Buff is going to be known as Dr. Yes...because he's going to get YESes with a surgical precision. Ha...I came up with the name....He came up with the slogan....Except we didn't discuss this becoming his new name....but I am going to call him that at least in my blog...because it will be good for his confidence and he can have fun "visualizing" getting YESes with such precision.
Well for what ever reason, Dr. Yes didn't really feel like opening or "picking up" women today...no big surprise to me...it's becoming his M.O. You might be thinking, we should call him Dr. No, because it fits his current frame but that would do nothing for his transformation.
And he's already started the transformation. He may not realize it yet but he's embarking on a monumental transformation...1 year from now, neither of us will recognize him. I'd bet on it and I am not the betting type. He's already made several steps in the right direction. He works out every day, he eats (what he thinks is) healthy, and he took me shopping with him.
And I have to admit, Dr. Yes takes just as long to shop as some girls. But we had fun....or at least, I had fun. He ended up getting several stylish things that accent his blue eyes and brown hair...SIDE NOTE: Hey ladies, he's single and you could be on a date with him in the next 31 days. We're also planning to invite another friend to go shopping tomorrow on Melrose, we'll call this friend "Hands-off Harry" because he's insanely young, amazingly attractive, super fashionable, humorous as hell, and in a relationship. That combination equals hands-off in my book (regardless of my visualizations). We're also going to invite the Exchange guy. Exchange Guy is going to need a new name too but first we have to come up with a really good one for him too. I love Exchange Guy; he really reminds me of my little brother. They are both the same height and they both have the same body build (skinny). He's cool and I'll miss him when he goes back to his European university after spring quarter.
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A Blog Comment
I made a comment on Tenmagnet's blog, check it out. He liked the comment and made it a blog entry. Check it out.
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Guilty Pleasure: Sleep
If I had the energy I'd write a great post about sleep...but for now all I have to say is:
zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
Good Night.
Tuesday, January 30, 2007
Guilty Pleasures: Food
I genuinely believe the the advice the PUAs give for self improvement is good and most people could benefit from improving themselves. One thing the PUAs encourage is developing a whole identity (being a well-rounded person). I am going to round my blog out with a list of my guilty pleasures.
I pride myself off of my guilty pleasure and I have many of them which I hold near and dear. Some of which go against social norms. However, my first guilty pleasure is social acceptable; food.
I love food. It's sorta surprising I don't weigh more but I keep myself busy during the days and eat relatively well (sorta). For a student on a limited budget I think I eat surprisingly well. I hate to cook for just one person, so general I just eat thing that I can warm up or eat as is.
Roasted chicken, with raw carrots, broccoli, cauliflower, and mango slices is a typical dinner for me at home. In the mornings I generally eat smoked salon with cream cheese on toast. And I usually eat a salmon dish at school with vegetables and herb (roasted or cheese smashed) potatoes. This is a pretty average day of me eating.
Unless I eat out then I will probably get a salmon (I love salmon) over a garden salad from California Fresh or maybe scrambled eggs with ham mixed in with roasted herb potatoes and French bread from the French Bakery.
But sometimes I am bad, like today for lunch I am eating KFC Tuesday $1.99 special...two pieces of chicken, a side, and biscuit just for $2.15 with tax. Yummmmmy.
I love saving money on food. And if I had any advice for the PUAs, I would suggest shopping at Trader Joe's. Because they have low prices and great food (and if you don't like something you buy, you can bring it back). Plus you get the added bonus of impressing some of the HBs with your worldly tastes.
Other food-related guilty pleasures:
~Trader Joe's: Flaxseed chips with peach salsa
~Jamba Juice: Mega Mango 16oz with immunity boost
~Carl's Jr: Guacamole $6 burger
~ McDonald's: fruit-to-go
~Jack-in-the-box: breakfast burrito
~Starbucks: Tall Soy Chai Latte with proper amount of water and carmel sauce in the cup.
~Sushi: Philly roll
I pride myself off of my guilty pleasure and I have many of them which I hold near and dear. Some of which go against social norms. However, my first guilty pleasure is social acceptable; food.
I love food. It's sorta surprising I don't weigh more but I keep myself busy during the days and eat relatively well (sorta). For a student on a limited budget I think I eat surprisingly well. I hate to cook for just one person, so general I just eat thing that I can warm up or eat as is.
Roasted chicken, with raw carrots, broccoli, cauliflower, and mango slices is a typical dinner for me at home. In the mornings I generally eat smoked salon with cream cheese on toast. And I usually eat a salmon dish at school with vegetables and herb (roasted or cheese smashed) potatoes. This is a pretty average day of me eating.
Unless I eat out then I will probably get a salmon (I love salmon) over a garden salad from California Fresh or maybe scrambled eggs with ham mixed in with roasted herb potatoes and French bread from the French Bakery.
But sometimes I am bad, like today for lunch I am eating KFC Tuesday $1.99 special...two pieces of chicken, a side, and biscuit just for $2.15 with tax. Yummmmmy.
I love saving money on food. And if I had any advice for the PUAs, I would suggest shopping at Trader Joe's. Because they have low prices and great food (and if you don't like something you buy, you can bring it back). Plus you get the added bonus of impressing some of the HBs with your worldly tastes.
Other food-related guilty pleasures:
~Trader Joe's: Flaxseed chips with peach salsa
~Jamba Juice: Mega Mango 16oz with immunity boost
~Carl's Jr: Guacamole $6 burger
~ McDonald's: fruit-to-go
~Jack-in-the-box: breakfast burrito
~Starbucks: Tall Soy Chai Latte with proper amount of water and carmel sauce in the cup.
~Sushi: Philly roll
Field Report: Film Buff & Yakuza
I met with my professor today and we discussed the scope of my project. And I realized that I need to focus in on something very specific and doable (now, I just have to figure out what that is going to be). The project will be due before I know it. I have the option to conduct a survey but I am not sure what to ask. I can see how this could easily become overwhelming.
My main focus has to be in regards to advertising, entertainment, or news. I figure there's not a whole lot of news in the community (other than product announcements...which is really just advertising).
More in field research:
I was contacted by a guy who read my blog, let's call him Yakuza. He invited me to an event tonight where PUAs were supposed to be hanging out. I saw it as an opportunity to learn and research. I dragged along, Film Buff, my partner in crime from school. The Exchange Guy had to work, so he missed out.
On the way to the club we had a discussion about the community and its reputation. I told him that many people ask why I am interested in researching these guys. Many people act like it's immoral or inherently bad. We tend to share the same feelings about the community.
We both think it's a valuable tool to help men meet women. Some men will use this tool wisely and some wont. It's like any other tool. A hammer isn't inherently bad. One guy could use it to build a house. Another man could use it to destroy a house. The tool isn't destructive, the man is.
To claim all men, or all PUAs, or all guys that seek to improve their social skills with women are bad is a sweeping stereotype. But more on my theories on the community and its reputation later.
When Film Buff and I arrived it was fairly empty (but it was a school night). Film Buff told me he didn't want to "game" and I told him he had to at least practice looking confident. He agreed and played along well throughout the night, as I reminded him & Yakuza to stand straight and not lean in. He got pretty good at it.
Film Buff really likes a girl in one of his classes, they went on a date but he freaked out and now it's weird. I am hoping he learns some skills to get better at dealing with girls he likes.
Film Buff was telling me what he knows about the community and about two guys he knows. He says one's a really ass and the other is a cool guy, both are PUAs. We also talked about Jeffries' creepy sugar packet thing and NLP (or whatever that linguist thing is).
Yakuza, entered the club, I wasn't sure it was him and he just stood near the entry, alone. I looked his way & smiled several times but the lighting was bad and I didn't want to keep sending signals if it was him in the first place. He sat down at an abandoned table near the entrance and chilled for a while until he saw his other pua friends. They then huddled around a table in the middle of the room.
I eventually went outside to smoke, leaving Film Buff to fend for himself and on my way back in I ran into Yakuza, and he introduced himself and he introduced me to his PUA friend, who has a girlfriend. "He likes to help newbies in the community." I shook the PUAs hand and he wanted to do some silly handshake, I refused. After some banter I headed back inside to keep from getting too chilly. Yakuza followed in shortly after & I introduced him to Film Buff.
Film Buff & I shared pot stickers and just enjoy the scene (I devoured most of the pot stickers...I was so hungry...thanks for sharing Film Buff). There weren't really that many people there(especially HBs), so we just chilled. Yakuza made a comment about his over "peacocking"..."I stand out like a sore thumb". I tried to explain to him that he needs to "own" is identity. I reminded him he's a law student and can claim he just came from work. I don't he understand.
I tried to turn his negative comment into a positive by making his attire (a dress shirt, jacket, and slacks) a part of his identity (law student). I didn't think he looked bad but I thought it was poor social judgment to mention it to others. Just by mentioning it, I felt like he was Demonstrating Lower Value (DLV). I told him if he was worried about it to wear jeans next time but that the rest looked fashionable. Most of the other guys were dressed down a bit but there was no reason (other than identity) to be dressed in anything more flashy than jeans & a t-shirt (and even jeans and a t-shirt can be done stylishly).
Film Buff told me he needed to go shopping for clothes and asked if I would help him. I thought that was pretty cool, besides I love to shop (duh! I'm a girl) but I don't shop much because I am on a limited (student) budget. And I love fashion (duh! again!). I love men who are well dress. PERIOD. And it doesn't even have to be a specific style. And it can even be better if the guy presents his own style and not some carbon copy of something he saw else where. Fashion can convey identity.
Yakuza went and sat by himself at a big table in the middle of the room (PUA friend was off doing something else). Later, I tried to explain to him that sitting alone was VERY bad for his "social proof". I also tried to explain to him that he should have came right in & started talking to the first people he saw (even if he didn't know them) because it sets the tone for the evening and it lets girls know that he is social....since girls are social they value this. They don't want to date the "lone wolf".
I reminded him of the 3-second rule. He tried to argue with me by saying that the 3-second rule had to do with 3-seconds of eye contact. I told him that didn't matter about eye contact. All that matters is that the girl saw you standing around for several minutes doing nothing. I don't think it matter that you're looking for friends. Go right in and be social with anyone and everyone.
The three of us shared a yummy chocolate cake dessert. Yakuza told me how he found out about the game, how he'd be having trouble at his small school, and he told me a bit about his experience and that he's looking for a girlfriend (ahhhh...that's so sweet....I hope he finds one). He also told Film Buff about the stylelife challenge. Some 30 day program that is going to be starting soon. Sounds interesting.
By the end of the night I am no where nearer a solution to my project but I had fun. And I realized that men are easily afraid of women. And that most guys are clueless when it comes to women. And that PUAs are helping these guys get better the whole thing.
My main focus has to be in regards to advertising, entertainment, or news. I figure there's not a whole lot of news in the community (other than product announcements...which is really just advertising).
More in field research:
I was contacted by a guy who read my blog, let's call him Yakuza. He invited me to an event tonight where PUAs were supposed to be hanging out. I saw it as an opportunity to learn and research. I dragged along, Film Buff, my partner in crime from school. The Exchange Guy had to work, so he missed out.
On the way to the club we had a discussion about the community and its reputation. I told him that many people ask why I am interested in researching these guys. Many people act like it's immoral or inherently bad. We tend to share the same feelings about the community.
We both think it's a valuable tool to help men meet women. Some men will use this tool wisely and some wont. It's like any other tool. A hammer isn't inherently bad. One guy could use it to build a house. Another man could use it to destroy a house. The tool isn't destructive, the man is.
To claim all men, or all PUAs, or all guys that seek to improve their social skills with women are bad is a sweeping stereotype. But more on my theories on the community and its reputation later.
When Film Buff and I arrived it was fairly empty (but it was a school night). Film Buff told me he didn't want to "game" and I told him he had to at least practice looking confident. He agreed and played along well throughout the night, as I reminded him & Yakuza to stand straight and not lean in. He got pretty good at it.
Film Buff really likes a girl in one of his classes, they went on a date but he freaked out and now it's weird. I am hoping he learns some skills to get better at dealing with girls he likes.
Film Buff was telling me what he knows about the community and about two guys he knows. He says one's a really ass and the other is a cool guy, both are PUAs. We also talked about Jeffries' creepy sugar packet thing and NLP (or whatever that linguist thing is).
Yakuza, entered the club, I wasn't sure it was him and he just stood near the entry, alone. I looked his way & smiled several times but the lighting was bad and I didn't want to keep sending signals if it was him in the first place. He sat down at an abandoned table near the entrance and chilled for a while until he saw his other pua friends. They then huddled around a table in the middle of the room.
I eventually went outside to smoke, leaving Film Buff to fend for himself and on my way back in I ran into Yakuza, and he introduced himself and he introduced me to his PUA friend, who has a girlfriend. "He likes to help newbies in the community." I shook the PUAs hand and he wanted to do some silly handshake, I refused. After some banter I headed back inside to keep from getting too chilly. Yakuza followed in shortly after & I introduced him to Film Buff.
Film Buff & I shared pot stickers and just enjoy the scene (I devoured most of the pot stickers...I was so hungry...thanks for sharing Film Buff). There weren't really that many people there(especially HBs), so we just chilled. Yakuza made a comment about his over "peacocking"..."I stand out like a sore thumb". I tried to explain to him that he needs to "own" is identity. I reminded him he's a law student and can claim he just came from work. I don't he understand.
I tried to turn his negative comment into a positive by making his attire (a dress shirt, jacket, and slacks) a part of his identity (law student). I didn't think he looked bad but I thought it was poor social judgment to mention it to others. Just by mentioning it, I felt like he was Demonstrating Lower Value (DLV). I told him if he was worried about it to wear jeans next time but that the rest looked fashionable. Most of the other guys were dressed down a bit but there was no reason (other than identity) to be dressed in anything more flashy than jeans & a t-shirt (and even jeans and a t-shirt can be done stylishly).
Film Buff told me he needed to go shopping for clothes and asked if I would help him. I thought that was pretty cool, besides I love to shop (duh! I'm a girl) but I don't shop much because I am on a limited (student) budget. And I love fashion (duh! again!). I love men who are well dress. PERIOD. And it doesn't even have to be a specific style. And it can even be better if the guy presents his own style and not some carbon copy of something he saw else where. Fashion can convey identity.
Yakuza went and sat by himself at a big table in the middle of the room (PUA friend was off doing something else). Later, I tried to explain to him that sitting alone was VERY bad for his "social proof". I also tried to explain to him that he should have came right in & started talking to the first people he saw (even if he didn't know them) because it sets the tone for the evening and it lets girls know that he is social....since girls are social they value this. They don't want to date the "lone wolf".
I reminded him of the 3-second rule. He tried to argue with me by saying that the 3-second rule had to do with 3-seconds of eye contact. I told him that didn't matter about eye contact. All that matters is that the girl saw you standing around for several minutes doing nothing. I don't think it matter that you're looking for friends. Go right in and be social with anyone and everyone.
The three of us shared a yummy chocolate cake dessert. Yakuza told me how he found out about the game, how he'd be having trouble at his small school, and he told me a bit about his experience and that he's looking for a girlfriend (ahhhh...that's so sweet....I hope he finds one). He also told Film Buff about the stylelife challenge. Some 30 day program that is going to be starting soon. Sounds interesting.
By the end of the night I am no where nearer a solution to my project but I had fun. And I realized that men are easily afraid of women. And that most guys are clueless when it comes to women. And that PUAs are helping these guys get better the whole thing.
Thursday, January 25, 2007
Field Report: "This shit is going to change my life".
Field Report: 1/25/07
Today I presented my paper topic to my class. The topic is based on a subculture of men who teach other men how to score with beautiful women (the seduction community). Everyone seemed to love my topic.
I don't know all that much currently about the methods and techniques but I think I have an understanding of the some of the basics. I felt confident enough in my proposal and was happy to address the class today, which is made up of mostly Average Frustrating Chumps (AFCs). I've done some research. But nothing prepared me for the reaction I got today during and after class.
I had my 60 year-old professor asking why some women seem offended when guys ask them out for coffee. At first I wasn't sure what to say. I tried to explain to him the concept of "bitch shield". The class all of a sudden wanted to know how to "get through the shield" (or disarm the target).
The professor kept turning to me with extremely difficult questions about why women can't tell that they are dating losers. Every time I tried to answer questions from a PUA community perspective the class discussion whirled around.
I was asked by the teacher at one point how I felt about the seduction community. I tried to explain that I wasn't interested in passing judgment on this group of men but that I am interested in collecting and presenting data for others to reference or pass judgment for themselves.
Everyone in the class seemed very interested and the students had a lot of questions for me. One of my class mates (the Exchange Guy) mentioned "the 3 second rule" and the guys all wanted to know what that meant. So I tried to explain that to them. The professor didn't get it, so I had to explain it further. "It's creepy when a guy circles around a woman lingering."
I kept getting questions about the actually techniques and not my project itself. And at one point I looked at my audience in the class and saw half of the guys in the room on the edge of their seats, just waiting for me to dispense the secrets of this seduction community.
I hope they weren't too disappointed that I didn't have much to teach them. However, I am sure more than one of them will seek out the community as a result of our discussion. One student mentioned The Game. I explained that I had read the book as part of my research already. The student, asking the question, hadn't read the book but read the reviews for it on amazon.
After class the two guys I usually work with decided to get lunch with me & another guy tagged along. Let's call the tag-along guy, the Russian Kid. We'll call my two friends: Film Buff & Exchange Guy.
Film Buff knew of the community before I told him I was interested in learning more. He says he knows a PUA but I have yet to meet him. The Exchange Guy is intrigued but knew nothing more about it other than what I've told him (which really isn't that much because I really don't know much at this point).
The whole time we are walking to the food court the Russian Kid is IOIing the hell out of me. He's DVHing. He's storytelling...all very poorly but he's doing it. And every time he does something remotely like anything I've learned, I point it out to him. "When you touch my hand like that, you're kino escalating." I pull away, he pulls away.
I realized that attraction, comfort, and seduction all happen naturally and that DVHs, kino, storytelling, IOIs, qualification all occur when two people like each other (especially when they like the other person sexually). The pickup artists in the community have just structured the sequence of events that normally take place and they have just found ways to do these things more effectively (and in less time it seems).
py Point being the Russian Kid (who is very outgoing personality) started a debate with the Film Buff about whether or not "Who lies more? Men or women?" was a good opener or not. He thought that it would be cleverer to ask "Do you like bunnies or elephants better?" I don't think he understand the point at all but Film Buff challenged him to see if "Who lies more?" would work and the Russian Kid got up from our table and sat down at the table next to us and opened a girl with "Who lies more? Men or women?"
Ha...I give him credit for having the balls to do a cold approach and he got a decent response from her considering he didn't really know what to do next. They spoke for probably several minutes and then he introduced the girl to all of us (she also happened to be eastern European). They probably talked for several more minutes and he got her contact info. He came back to the table and the Exchange Guy decided to go in and try to open a girl.
While the Exchange guy was making his way to a kiss close the Russian Kid bursts out "This shit is going to change my life......I am going to have babies." Hahahahahaha....it was classic. His response just reminded me that we as humans are hardwired with certain evolutionary responses and "spreading ones seed" is one of the responses and this kid felt the effects of evolution at that moment.
This incident also helped me understand why some of the guys (Gurus, instructors, masters, etc) put so much time and effort into helping other guys. There's something spectacular about seeing a guy get a glimpse at what is possible with women.
Now these guys want to go out and use me as social proof to practice. I am not sure that would be a good idea...I could possible be held responsible for unleashing unproperly trained guys on unsuspecting girls.
At this point, I don't think it is ideal for any guys to turn to me for pickup advice. It's like the blind leading the blind and I am the female equivalent of an Recovering Average Frustrating Chump/Chick (rAFC).
Today I presented my paper topic to my class. The topic is based on a subculture of men who teach other men how to score with beautiful women (the seduction community). Everyone seemed to love my topic.
I don't know all that much currently about the methods and techniques but I think I have an understanding of the some of the basics. I felt confident enough in my proposal and was happy to address the class today, which is made up of mostly Average Frustrating Chumps (AFCs). I've done some research. But nothing prepared me for the reaction I got today during and after class.
I had my 60 year-old professor asking why some women seem offended when guys ask them out for coffee. At first I wasn't sure what to say. I tried to explain to him the concept of "bitch shield". The class all of a sudden wanted to know how to "get through the shield" (or disarm the target).
The professor kept turning to me with extremely difficult questions about why women can't tell that they are dating losers. Every time I tried to answer questions from a PUA community perspective the class discussion whirled around.
I was asked by the teacher at one point how I felt about the seduction community. I tried to explain that I wasn't interested in passing judgment on this group of men but that I am interested in collecting and presenting data for others to reference or pass judgment for themselves.
Everyone in the class seemed very interested and the students had a lot of questions for me. One of my class mates (the Exchange Guy) mentioned "the 3 second rule" and the guys all wanted to know what that meant. So I tried to explain that to them. The professor didn't get it, so I had to explain it further. "It's creepy when a guy circles around a woman lingering."
I kept getting questions about the actually techniques and not my project itself. And at one point I looked at my audience in the class and saw half of the guys in the room on the edge of their seats, just waiting for me to dispense the secrets of this seduction community.
I hope they weren't too disappointed that I didn't have much to teach them. However, I am sure more than one of them will seek out the community as a result of our discussion. One student mentioned The Game. I explained that I had read the book as part of my research already. The student, asking the question, hadn't read the book but read the reviews for it on amazon.
After class the two guys I usually work with decided to get lunch with me & another guy tagged along. Let's call the tag-along guy, the Russian Kid. We'll call my two friends: Film Buff & Exchange Guy.
Film Buff knew of the community before I told him I was interested in learning more. He says he knows a PUA but I have yet to meet him. The Exchange Guy is intrigued but knew nothing more about it other than what I've told him (which really isn't that much because I really don't know much at this point).
The whole time we are walking to the food court the Russian Kid is IOIing the hell out of me. He's DVHing. He's storytelling...all very poorly but he's doing it. And every time he does something remotely like anything I've learned, I point it out to him. "When you touch my hand like that, you're kino escalating." I pull away, he pulls away.
I realized that attraction, comfort, and seduction all happen naturally and that DVHs, kino, storytelling, IOIs, qualification all occur when two people like each other (especially when they like the other person sexually). The pickup artists in the community have just structured the sequence of events that normally take place and they have just found ways to do these things more effectively (and in less time it seems).
py Point being the Russian Kid (who is very outgoing personality) started a debate with the Film Buff about whether or not "Who lies more? Men or women?" was a good opener or not. He thought that it would be cleverer to ask "Do you like bunnies or elephants better?" I don't think he understand the point at all but Film Buff challenged him to see if "Who lies more?" would work and the Russian Kid got up from our table and sat down at the table next to us and opened a girl with "Who lies more? Men or women?"
Ha...I give him credit for having the balls to do a cold approach and he got a decent response from her considering he didn't really know what to do next. They spoke for probably several minutes and then he introduced the girl to all of us (she also happened to be eastern European). They probably talked for several more minutes and he got her contact info. He came back to the table and the Exchange Guy decided to go in and try to open a girl.
While the Exchange guy was making his way to a kiss close the Russian Kid bursts out "This shit is going to change my life......I am going to have babies." Hahahahahaha....it was classic. His response just reminded me that we as humans are hardwired with certain evolutionary responses and "spreading ones seed" is one of the responses and this kid felt the effects of evolution at that moment.
This incident also helped me understand why some of the guys (Gurus, instructors, masters, etc) put so much time and effort into helping other guys. There's something spectacular about seeing a guy get a glimpse at what is possible with women.
Now these guys want to go out and use me as social proof to practice. I am not sure that would be a good idea...I could possible be held responsible for unleashing unproperly trained guys on unsuspecting girls.
At this point, I don't think it is ideal for any guys to turn to me for pickup advice. It's like the blind leading the blind and I am the female equivalent of an Recovering Average Frustrating Chump/Chick (rAFC).
Sunday, January 21, 2007
This is a spoof, I changed the subject from advertising to attraction
How Attraction Laws Are Established
Attraction, once a gamble, has thus become, under able direction, one of the safest business ventures. Certainly no other enterprise with comparable possibilities need involve so little risk.
Therefore, this attraction community deals, not with theories and opinions, but with well-proved principles and facts. Information is provided for students and a safe guide for seducers. Every statement has been weighed. The method is confined to establish fundamentals. If we enter any realms of uncertainty we shall carefully denote them.
The present status of attraction is due to many reasons. Much national seduction products have long been handled by large organizations known as seduction agencies. Some of these agencies, in their hundreds of campaigns, have tested and compared the thousands of plans and ideas. The results have been watched and recorded, so no lessons have been lost.
Such agencies employ a high grade of talent. None but able and experienced men can meet the requirements in national attraction. Working in co-operation, learning from each other and from each new undertaking, some of these men develop into masters.
Individuals may come and go, but they leave their records and ideas behind them. These become a part of the organization's equipment, and a guide to all who follow. Thus, in the course of decades, such agencies become storehouses of seduction experiences, proved principles, and methods.
The larger agencies also come into intimate contact with experts in every department of business. Their clients are usually dominating concerns. So they see the results of countless methods and polices. They become a clearing house for every thing pertaining to seduction. Nearly every relationship question which arises within this community is accurately answered by many experiences.
Under these conditions, where they long exist, attraction and seduction become exact sciences. Every course is charted. The compass of accurate knowledge directs the shortest, safest, cheapest course to any destination.
We learn the principles and prove them by repeated tests. This is done through keyed attraction, by traced returns, largely by the use of field reports. We compare one way with many others, backward and forward, and record the results. When one method invariably proves best, that method becomes a fixed principle.
Attraction is traced down to the fraction of interest.
One techinque is compared with another, one method with another. Openers, routines, scripts, arguments and reactions are compared. To reduce the rejection means much in some cases. So no guesswork is permitted. One must know what is best. Thus our community and its agencies first established many of our basic laws.
In lines where direct data is impossible we compare one situation with another. Scores of methods may be compared in this way, measured by results.
But the most common way is by use of the field reports. We offer feedback, guidance, learning opportunities, or something to induce growth. Thus we learn the amount of action which each approach engenders.
But those figures are not final. One approach may bring too many worthless replies, another replies that are valuable. So our final conclusions are always based on the end results.
In a large seduction agency returns are watched and recorded on hundreds of different styles. In a single mythod they are sometimes recorded on thousands of separate field reports. Thus we test everything pertaining to attraction. We answer nearly every possible question by multitudinous traced returns.
Some things we learn in this way apply only to particular techniques. But even those supply basic principles for analogous undertakings.
Others apply to all approaches. They become fundamentals for attraction in general. They are universally applied. No wise seducer will ever depart from those unvarying laws.
We propose in this community to deal with those fundamentals, those universal principles. To teach only established techniques. There is that technique in attraction, as in all art, science and mechanics. And it is, as in all lines, a basic essential.
The lack of those fundamentals has been the main trouble with this community in the past. Each member was a law unto himself. All previous knowledge, all progress in the ways of women, was a closed book to him. It was like a man trying to build a modern locomotive without first ascertaining what others had done. It was like a Columbus starting out to find an undiscovered land.
Men were guided by whims and fancies - vagrant, changing breezes. They rarely arrived at their port. When they did, quite by accident, it was by a long roundabout course.
Each early mariner in this sea mapped his own separate course. There were no charts to guide him. Not a lighthouse marked a harbor, not a buoy showed a reef. The wrecks were unrecorded, so countless ventures came to grief on the same rocks and shoals.
Attraction was a gamble, a speculation of the rashest sort. One man's guess on the proper course was as likely to be as good as anothers'. There were no safe pilots, because few sailed the same course twice.
The condition has been corrected. Now the only uncertainties pertain to people and to uncontrollable factors, not to methods. It is hard to measure human idiosyncrasies, the preferences and prejudices, the likes and dislikes that exist.
Ventures may fail, but the failures are not disasters. Losses, when they occur, are but trifling. And the causes are factors which has nothing to do with the attraction itself.
Seduction has flourished under these new conditions. It has multiplied in volume, in prestige and respect. The perils have increased many fold. Just because the gamble has become a science, the speculation a very conservative business.
These facts should be recognized by all. This is no proper field for sophistry or theory, or for any other will-o'-the-wisp. The blind leading the blind is ridiculous. It is pitiful in a field with such vast possibilities. Success is a rarity, a maximum success an impossibility, unless one is guided by laws as immutable as the law of attraction.
So our main purpose here is to set down those laws, and to tell you how to prove them for yourself. After them come a myriad of variations. No two approaches are ever conducted on lines that are identical. Individuality is an essential. Imitation is a reproach. But those variable things which depend on ingenuity have no place in a seduction community. This is for groundwork only.
Our hope is to fosterseduction through a better understanding. To place it on a business basis. To have it recognized as among the safest, surest ventures which lead to large results. Thousand of conspicuous successes show its possibilities. Their variety points out its almost unlimited scope. Yet thousands who need it, who can never attain their deserts without it, still look upon its accomplishments as somewhat accidental.
That was so, but it is not so now. We hope that this community will throw some new lights on the subject.
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