Style Life Challenge, Day 8 ADVICE ONLY

Day 8

TASK 1

Listen to the following audio lesson on anticipating and defusing objections to approaches:

CHECK. I listened to the audio several times. There is really solid advice on it. I especially like the advice about making it seem spontaneous and also using your body language to convey initially that you won't stay long (i.e., asking over your shoulder, etc)

TASK 2

Go out and approach five women or groups that include women today with the openers you used yesterday.

I stayed in doors all day today. I am not doing this challenge to get dates. I might just try opening a few sets at school today.

TASK 3

When you return home tonight, ask yourself if you noticed anything different about the way the women you approached today responded in comparison with your first time using these openers yesterday.

If you noticed any difference, share it in the forums on the main Challenge Discussion board.

I think this is very important. Really take the time to analyze what happened. Taking this extra at the end of the day will really improve your game. Because it forces your to go over the material/experience multiple times (repetition is key) and it also forces you to pay more attention in the field. The more aware you are in the field the better.

TASK 4

Get an insight into the dating world, mating options, and male courtship strategies from a female perspective.

I didn't see this anywhere. Where is it?

Style Life Challenge, Day 7

Day 7

TASK 1

Download and read the following PDF, collecting a dozen of the Stylelife Openers all of you posted

CHECK

TASK 2

There are two main keys to delivering an opener successfully. My Mystery Method pal Lovedrop shares them with you here:

CHECK

TASK 3

Choose two of your favorite openers from the pdf. If you prefer an opener that you posted but isn't included, you may field-test that as one of your openers.

Then follow these pointers to committing them (and anything else in the future) to memory:

CHECK


TASK 4

Make sure you shower, shave, and feel good before you leave the house today. Play your favorite CD at high volume if necessary. If you purchased anything new on Day 5, put it on.

CHECK. I felt great.

Approach five different women today (in the street, at a café, at a bar, in the mall, in an elevator, wherever) and deliver the openers you memorized.

I didn't actually open any guys with any openers. This is where the challenge is going to get difficult for me. I am dating a guy I REALLY like, we'll call him Stalwart Stan. And although we're NOT exclusive, I find it very difficult to date anyone else. Between school and him, there's not enough time to maintain other sexual relationships (trust me I've tried). Me approaching men at this point is counter productive to the relationship I want with Stalwart Stan. I went out last night and met several interesting and fun men but when it came down to it, NONE of them compared to the Stalwart Stan. I am not sure if I should just quit the challenge altogether or stay on to encourage the guys who are also doing the challenge.

TASK 5

At home tonight, make a list of the approaches you did today.

I am going to journal about this later. I'll probably blog a little about it too....stay tuned.

Style Life Challenge, Day 6

Day 6

TASK 1

Make sure you shower, shave, and feel good before you leave the house today. Play your favorite CD at high volume if necessary. If you purchased any new items yesterday, put them on. Try not to touch yourself.

Over the course of the day, give five women spontaneous compliments about a specific attribute. At least four of these compliments should be given to women who you do not previously know.

Check. I gave out 7 compliments to guys and several to some girls. Yay me!

TASK 2

Read the following pdf on openers:

Check.

TASK 3

Listen to the following conversation I had with Lovedrop, a top Mystery Method instructor. Though the audio is obscured at times by passing cars and planes, the content is worth sharing; it documents the creation of a workable opener on the spot. Something you’ll be doing in Task 3.

Check.


TASK 4

Now generate your own original opener, and post it in the newly added message group titled OPENERS.

Though the pdf discusses all types of openers, we will be focusing on scripted, indirect openers that can work in any situation.

PERFECT TOPIC: VALENTINE'S DAY

PERFECT APPROACH: "Hey guys, I can't stay long but I need a female opinion. My friend just met a great girl and he doesn't know what do for Valentine's Day. Should he spend lots of money and go all out? Or should he play it safe and do something smaller?

AFTER MATH: 1. additional follow-ups: He's worried she may just be with him for Valentine's; should he do a group thing? Or a private thing? Can he be creative without spending a lot of money? Do you think dinner and a movie is a good idea? (the possibilities are endless). Day. 2. What are your plans for V-day?

I haven't field tested this. I was hoping some of you guys could use my V-Day opener this weekend and get yourselves some dates.


TASK 5

Throughout the day, look through the OPENERS message board and give a QUALITY POINT to each of your THREE favorite openers.

WE need a winner's circle thread.

Style Life Challenge, Day 5

Day 5

Task 1
Read the PDF on looks, grooming and pickup.

Check. I wholeheartedly agree with EVERYTHING on that list and I am a female, so you should do your best to accomplish this.

Task 2
Post a photo of yourself an take notes on the feed back.

I prefer NOT to post a photo.

Task 3
Get a free style consultation.

I was at school all day. I don't really think I need a style consultation and I can't afford any new clothes right now.

Operation VDDC, Style Life Challenge Day 5 & Mini-Field report

Valentine's Day Date Challenge: Visualization

Ok, so you want a Valentine's day date, right? Do this little visualization exercise and the holiday you should imagine is V-Day.

Where are you? Who are you with? What are you doing? How do you feel? Picture it the way that would make you the most happiest. And remember your happiness is within your control and you just have to take control.

Read Captain Jack's Blog:
http://captainjackpua.blogspot.com/2007
/02/innergame-whos-in-picture.html

Once you see a girl you're interested in DO NOT HIT ON HER RIGHT AWAY:
Check out Tenmagnet's blog:
http://blog.tenmagnet.com/2007/
01/dont-hit-on-her-right-away.html
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Style Life Challenge Day 5.

I'll have to post this info later....I am exhausted and have to get up early to take a midterm tomorrow. I've had internet problems and I am unable to take the time & energy it requires to post this info now. Stay tuned.

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Mini-Field report: Scarface

So, it turns out that the guy with black hair & dark brown eyes from yesterday (the one who gave me several clothing store recommendations and asked me to study with him) IS A NATURAL.

We were studying tonight and we got on the conversation and I told him about the PUA community and he told me how he picksup women. He hasn't read any books, done any research, or anything like that.

But he has figured out a lot of stuff on his own through observation and practice. This kid amazes me. Everything he told me, I ended up telling him what he's learned on his own about women is powerful and that there is a community of men out there teaching each other how to harness the knowledge that he's gaining.

This kid is a killa, and we're going to call him, Scarface. Stay tuned for more adventures with Scarface and the cast of fascinating characters that some how find their ways into my life.

Day 4: Style Life Challenge

Day 4

NOTE: Today is one of the more critical days of the Stylelife Challenge. Make sure you listen to your special mission given in Task #3 below. If you are going to be at hoiday events all day, it is still possible to complete this mission -- as long as you are interacting with people who you didn't previously know.


TASK 1

If you masturbate, do not masturbate today.
~I hope this task doesn't appear repeatedly or regularly..this isn't what I signed up for.


TASK 2
wake up, CHECK
shower, CHECK
shampoo, CHECK
soap thoroughly, CHECK.
Wash twice if you want. DOUBLE CHECK

Put something scented on your body
– Sorry, no can do. My skin is reacting to winter & I need to avoid all scents. PERIOD.

Then shave your face clean. Make sure you shave or tweeze any stray places where you have hair – the back of your neck, your ears, your nostrils.
~I removed plenty of access hair. And dyed my eye browns darker.

Put on some clean, well-fitting clothing. And feel like a million dollars.
~TRIPLE CHECK. I FELT HOT!

Look at yourself in the mirror and read the following: You are a god. People love you. You glow and radiate charisma and charm. You stand out from everyone else around you. Talking to you is a privilege. You deserve the best the world has to offer. It’s all there out there, waiting for YOU to take it. CHECK

Now, say the following out loud, with conviction: I am a god. People love me. I glow and radiate charisma and charm. I stand out from everyone else around me. Talking to me is a privilege. I deserve the best the world has to offer. It’s all out there, waiting for ME to take it. CHECK

Repeat it once more time, or as many times as it takes, until you really FEEL and EMBODY it.

~I repeated this throughout the day. I had it written on a small card and evidentially memorized the whole thing. And I have to honestly say that this is the exact reason why I am doing this challenge. The above statement is extremely powerful in endless many ways; it blows my mind. People who can say that statement to themselves throughout their days and believe it, will truly improve their lives. I have no doubt in my mind. I did make one small alteration and my first sentence is: "I am a Goddess"; I hope nobody minds.

There you go.


TASK 3

Today, you have a special mission. It is best to perform this mission as soon as you are shaved, showered, clean, and feeling good. You can find out what it is here:

~This was so awesome too. I finished this task by noon and all but one guy had a suggestion for a men's clothing store, and one guy gave me several recommendations and I got a study buddy out of it too.

Brown hair, Brown eyes:
~Sometime before 10am, Guy at copier, asked over my shoulder. Urban Outfitters on Westwood.

Black Hair, Dark eyes:
~Just before 10am, guy sitting behind me in class. Asked over the shoulder. He didn't have a recommendation.

Black hair, brown eyes:
~10am, guy sitting next to me in class. He gave me 3 recommendations. And he asked me to study with him for the midterm.

Brown hair, blue eyes (yum):
~Just before noon. Guy walking towards me on campus, 3rd street promenade.

Asia Black hair, brown eyes:
~Noon, guy wearing a tie. I asked him wear I could buy a tie; he said Ross. I asked him where that was; he said westwood.

TASK 4 (OPTIONAL)

If you haven’t yet posted your photo in the Style Critique section of the board, do so today.
~I am not going to post a photo; I value my anonymity.


TASK 5

Go to the Style Critique section of the board. Offer constructive criticism to those who have posted photos. CHECK


TASK 6 (OPTIONAL)

Choose one of the following to experience again: The mind-shaping CD, the posture videos, or the voice exercises. This is recommended every day during the Challenge.

~Ummm...ok, later.

Day 3 Stylelife Challenge: Music & Lyrics

Day 3

TASK 1

Do not shower today.

I had to shower today. And it's a good thing I did because I ended up seeing two doctors today. Or better stated, two doctors ended up seeing me (naked) today. And let me just say, it's a good thing I showered. But I didn't wear make-up or put any product in my hair. And I even wear my glasses (which do nothing for my posture).


TASK 2

Do not shave today.

[SPOILER: I know it’s uncomfortable in July, but that’s the point. You’re going to be allowed to shower and shave tomorrow – so try to wait till then!]

I didn't remove a single hair, anywhere. Well, I may have pulled one tiny-little hair off of my chin but I didn't use tweezers and it was a very difficult task. And I am sure no one would have notice either way. Unless of course they saw me pull it out. But that just TMI....Lets move on to the Next task should we?....


TASK 3

Follow the vocal exercises recommended below to work on projecting your voice, speaking with confidence, and modulating your tone.

I listened to the audio and read the paper but I didn't actually have time to practice and I don't have a recorder or a mic. I should have practice something vocal today but I didn't, instead I smoked.

TASK 4

Dial a local number randomly on your telephone. When someone answers, try to get him or her to recommend a good movie to watch.

I didn't actually do this one either (the score is Ana:0; Tasks:4). I did actually make small talk about movie recommendations and talked about Music & Lyrics and Drew Berrymore with 4 girls at school. I didn't catch their eye color though.

TASK 5

Listen to the mind-shaping audio before going to sleep.

I listened to that thing non-stop from last night until I listened to the audio on improving speech/voice. I'll play it one more time but I am not going to let it play all night, like I have for the last 2 nights. If it's going to sink into my subconscious mind, it would have already sunk in. And I do think it has help a bit though.

I didn't do the posture exercise either. And I didn't really pay much attention to my posture today either.

But I did make some small talk. I could have made more but I was focusing on my school work after I was finished at the doctors office.

I asked for movie recommendations and also asked favorite Drew Berrymore movie. It was fun.
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Music & Lyrics

I got to see the romantic comedy Music & Lyrics at school for free tonight. It was a good break from my studyin and it was free and it had Drew Berrymore in it. And I saw it a week before it opens. And I won a free movie poster for answering a trivia question.

"Which 80's pop star played the superbowl?"

"Prince" I shouted after the MC called on me. It was sorta cool because I didn't actually watch the superbowl; I was busy helping Dr. Yes shop on Melrose but we did happen to stop in at a new pub for some awesome Burgers and sweet-mashed potatoes...YUM...and the superbowl was on and I saw Prince.

I ended up asking a group of girls where the line was to get in & they informed me that tickets needed to be had to get in. Unless there was any room for standby...ha...as if it were an airplane flight. Anyhoo, I ran into the girls again and then one of them came to track me down to offer me an extra ticket...that was cool.

The movie was quaint & contrived, in the typical hollywood romantic comedy way but again I didn't really mind since I have a special interest in romantic comedies (If you didn't notice, I am a female).

And for the record, there's nothing better than seeing a cheesy romantic-comedy a week before valentine's day with a bunch of estrogen-induced barely-legal college girls.

StyleLife Challenge Day 2

Task 1

In all honesty there is no way I am going to be able to NOT shower for multiple days. I know this may seem like some lame-girl thing...but in all honesty for health reasons I need to shower at least every 2 days. I have a skin problem and it gets really bad during the winter and I need to wash my skin. PERIOD. Call me lame. I could go without make-up...maybe that is a female equivalent to the male's not showering. I love make-up so it will be a stretch for me...and it will be good to see how people respond to me with out make-up.

Task 2

Ummm...I didn't remove any hair...I usually save my armpits and remove excess hair from my upper lip, brow line, and chin...I guess I can forgo that for this experiment.

Task 3

I printed the mission list and started to fill it out...It felt corny or superficial. I wish there were some questions to help me get a little deeper.

Task 4

I listened to the tape last night. I actually let it play in the background has I was doing other stuff. Then right before bed I actually listened to it and did what it was saying. I let it keep playing all night while I was sleeping. I was hoping it would soak into my unconscious. I keep letting it play while I was getting ready in the morning...I'll listen to it again, just before bed and let it play all night.

Task 5

I watch the posture video. I thought it was a bit weird. But I laid on the floor with my head on a book for 15 minutes. I really paid attention to my posture all day. I noticed that I normally walk around with my chin down. Today I walked around with my chin parallel with the ground. It felt weird because I had to look down with my eyes. I don't know if this makes sense but I know I looked much more confident today. But my back hurt like hell. Maybe I am not doing it properly. I'll rewatch the video again.

Task 6

I realized that my small talk yesterday didn't actually count because I was asking for restaurant recommendations, etc. I made small talk with several people today.

1) An Asian girl in the bathroom (at the sink), she had brown eyes and we talked about make-up (I love make-up).
2) I talked to a blonde girl with blue eyes in my class. It's a big class and I've never talked to her before. We talked about the weather (I said the groundhog must have seen his shadow because it's hot in California). We also talked about the report that is due in class.
3) Short Latin girl walking with brown eyes. I asked if she was studying for midterms. She was.
4) Asian girl at copy machine (very dark brown eyes) I was talking about the air conditioner.
5) Old lady on the bus with hazel brown/green eyes. This was the highlight of my day. We talked until she had to get off the bus...we talked about a lot of stuff: school, writing, weather, her family, etc.

I talked to a bunch of other people but it wasnt "small" talk. Like I asked to pet a man's dog, I asked people questions, etc.

I got yelled at by a man in an elevator. He was outside the elevator and he kept pushing the button...which stopped the elevator from going anywhere. I told him "the elevator will go up if you stop pushing the button". He was highly offended by me and told me "You can hold the elevator" Then he asked me where my PhD was. I told him I was an undergrad. He was extremely hostile towards me. I tried to defuse it with being kind. I told him I didn't mean to be rude. He said I was. I said I didn't mean to. He said "You should say excuse me." I said "excuse me". He said "you're excused". I said "Thank you, have a nice day". It was really weird.

P.S.
I got a call from a friend who is a newbie, I call him Yakuza. He said he was sarging alone at Barnes&Noble and he was striking out. After I listened to him. I tried to give him some advice that I hope will help. I told him to use false-time restraints and to listen to the mindmapping auto to erase the bad experience from his mind. I hope that helped him.