Lifestyle and how important I think it is

I was reading Sinn's blog and one of his posts (Why some guys never get better) got me thinking (as his posts usually do). A quote from the blog:

"3. Lifestyle. You want to set up your life in a path that women are a part of your lifestyle. You should be going to parties, classes, dinners, plays etc.. You need to actually get a life that a woman wants to be a part of. And have a social life where women are introduced to you. "

I happen to agree that lifestyle is so important. It reminds me of a guy I dated and dumped. Here's the story:

I met this very attractive guy, We'll call him Dead-end Dave. He was hot. He gave me his number and we eventually went on a "date" (a really date, where he paid for dinner and we caught the sunset at the pier).

We had MAD chemistry together. When we kissed my body felt similar to the way I feel after I have had an orgasm/GREAT! I felt this intense energy between us. He felt it too. We eventually had sex and that was amazing also.

But I had to dump him. Because his lifestyle didn't match mine and he lack ambition and drive. Two things that I have in spades at the moment. His lifestyle didn't appeal to me in the least. He had a dead-end job, he mentioned he wanted to pursue a career in electrical something or other and that he was studying to take a test that would allow him to do so. His creative goal in life was he wanted to be a DJ.

During the time I dated him, I think he studied for that test once for a few minutes and spent a lot of time DJing and smoking pot. Now, if you know me, you know I love pot. So I didn't have a problem with that but I do have a problem dating a guy that seems to be going NOWHERE, especially when I feel like a lot of my time and energy goes into advancing myself and my life

Also when I first started dating him he was borrowing a car from a friend, which eventually he had to give back. He was living paycheck to paycheck. Which I can understand because I am in a similar situation myself but I feel like my passion for education is a positive step in the direction of taking care of this.

His apartment was a mess. The cupboard where he kept the garbage was filthy and stank. His refrigrator was in no better condition. His room was a disaster and his bathroom hadn't be properly cleaned in what appeared to be years. I didn't want to spend time at his place and spending time at my place was impossible.

I am NOT a gold digger. I've never dated any guy because of the money he has and I've only really dated one guy who could be considered RICH. But most of the guys I date make more money than me (since I am a full-time student). To date someone who has very little and is doing very little to change that was a deal breaker.

I want a partner. I want someone I can build a life with and create things with. I don't want a guy that's just meandering through life even if it means foregoing great sex and a handsome package.